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July 25, 2008
New Book Project for Females - Do You Want to Participate?
Thank you for your interest in this project. We are working on a book that explores how women experienced sex during their adolescence and whether historical and cultural perceptions of teen sexuality actually impact who we as women become as adults. Forgive us as the questions may seem fairly invasive, but we are looking to conduct a thorough and meaningful exploration of teen sexuality through the eyes of adult women. Please know that for publication, all personal identifiers will be removed; we are committed to keeping your identity anonymous.
Demographics
Date of Birth:
Ethnicity:
Religion:
Marital Status:
Marital Status of Parents:
Sexual Orientation:
Hometown:
Highest Academic Degree Achieved (location and date):
Experiences
1. Tell us about your first kiss? How old were you? How did you meet and how long had you known your partner? What do you remember about that experience?
2. How many years elapsed between your first kiss and your first experience with intercourse? What kind of sexual experiences did you participate in during that time, and how many partners did you have? Was oral sex part of these years (and if so, giving, receiving, or both)?
3. Tell us about the first time you had intercourse. What kind of planning went into the event? How long had you been with your partner before having intercourse? What other types of sexual behavior had you engaged in with this partner before having intercourse? Did you discuss it with your partner ahead of time? Did you use birth control/protection? Did you enjoy it? What thoughts were going through your head at the moment?
4. How do you think this first experience shaped your overall attitudes toward sex? How do you feel about that partner today? If you could go back and do it again, what (if anything) would you change?
5. Tell us about subsequent sexual experiences during your teen years. How many partners did you have before you turned twenty? Is there one partner or one event that stands out as shaping your future attitudes toward sex? If you could go back and do it again, what if anything would you change?
6. Do you keep in touch with any former sexual partners? Have you ever discussed how your experience with them shaped you?
Family
1. What messages did you get from your family about sex? Did your parents (or other older relatives) talk about it at all? If so, what was the tone of these conversations? Do you think your parents impacted your attitudes and feelings about sex?
2. Did you tell anyone in your family about your sexual behavior? If so, how did they react? If not, why? 3. Did you grow up with siblings? (If so, please tell us their ages and genders.) Did you ever discuss sex with your siblings? Do you think your siblings impacted your attitudes and feelings about sex?
Friends
1. Did you ever discuss sex with your friends? Did you discuss your (or their) sexual behavior? What was the tone of these conversations?
2. Do you think your sexual experiences were similar to those of your friends and your peer group? In what ways?
3. How much do you think your friends influenced your attitudes and feelings about sex both at the time and now?
Society/Community
1. Thinking back on your teen years, what messages about sex were you getting from society? What TV shows and movies were popular and what were they saying? Did you read any publications (magazines or books) that discussed sex? If so, what were they? And what do you remember about these publications?
2. What do you think today’s teens learn about sex from society and popular culture? In what ways is it similar or different from what you learned?
3. Did you learn about sex in school? If so, what did you learn and at what age?
4. Did you learn about sex in a faith-based (religious or spiritual) institution? If so, what did you learn and at what age?
Perspective
1. How would you define being sexually healthy? Do you consider yourself a sexually healthy person? Why or why not? Are you happy with your current sex life? Why or why not?
2. What advice are you/would you give a daughter about sex? What advice are you/would you give a son about sex?
3. If you could go back in time and give the teenage-you one piece of advice related to sex, what would it be?
4. Over all, how do you think your decisions about sex as a teenager shaped the woman you are today? Last, if we need to follow up with you, could you please provide us with your email address?
Thank you very much for taking the time to share your story with us. We are very appreciative. Feel free to email your responses back to: or
As always, thank you! Logan & Martha
Comments (3 comment)
Hey logan I saw you on fox five news. You were fun, entertaing to watch, and gave good advice. Some of the things you mention I heard in class.
By jared a on 12 17, 2010
I talk, I listen, I hug, I hold her while she cries. I comfort her while she speaks of her experiences, her hurting, her sadness.
I am no don juan, have gone out for lunch or drinks with fewer than thirty women and had any form of sex with fewer than 25 and am over 50 yrs old, happily married since 1987.
From what little I do know I can say with absolute certainty that:
- early experiences do not _always_ lock in the sexual behaviors, desires or cravings
- early _abusive_ experiences, forced sex before the age of 12, both parents being abusive, or one parent or relative (highly trusted figure) betraying that trust in erotic ways, have the most negative impact, are the most likely to prevent a grown woman from enjoying sex or having regular sex or being able to orgasm
- vaginal orgasms are more intense than clitoral orgasms, but all is best when the whole woman orgasms at once, crashing waves of pleasure from both “clitoral” and “vaginal” orgasmic centers
- early abusive experiences often cause unlimited shame in the lady’s mind about sex, or different aspects of sex
- early abusive experiences often cause a woman to need a strong male figure, even a dominant male figure, to support the iddish need to be defended, and to fulfill the need to be “taken” which may exist if id “learned” that sex is about being abused and having no say in what happens and having pleasure
- strong women are often weak sex partners, weak mousey looking women are often the most fantastic sex partners
- women dont know what they want sexually any more than men do, the best couples embark on a lifelong journey or dance of exploration and mutual gratification and continued interest, side by side
- men make the mistake of thinking the first rush of sex is all there is to sex, probably because of the years-long timeframe when they masturbate in secret as adolescents, before engaging with anyone, especially a girl
- the vast majority of teen suicides are due to gay tendencies in the teen individual, the shame, the social stigma, the parental disappointment in a gay child; the one thing parents could do to prevent suicide of their child is to be open minded towards all sexual orientations, especially among strictly religious or highly judgmental couples / families… my best guess is that this would reduce teen suicides by more than two thirds
- most women have not found great sex, most women over 30 have given up on great sex and simply trudge through the daily duties to family and child and work--- this is very sad to me and I hope you can help !
- most men never “get” it, that the hard female portion of the clitoris is the same tissue and nerves as the man’s most sensitive area of the penis head, and that it responds well to soft lollypop sucking motions just as theirs does
- relationships are all friendships at least, and more intense relationships build on a foundation of friendship and trust; if one cant be friends with someone then one should probably not have sex with them; if one cant trust someone then one should probably avoid letting guards down around them - there are alot of mean, ugly people in the world, some of them are the wealthiest or most physically attractive of either sex but true happiness cant be found with someone a person cant trust
- trust means different things to different people, in truth one can trust another to be who they naturally are at most
By JustaGuy on 08 20, 2010
2. Don’t Treat Us Like Porn Stars. Just because you can pay to watch a chick with fake boobs and a fake tan fawn all over some hairy, grunting guy doesn’t mean you can treat us like some 30-second money shot. Women crave seduction. We crave pleasure. We want sex to be, well, sexy, not like some third-rate porn production. I’m not saying you won’t get those little surprise treats now and then—but you’ve got to work for them. Luckily, the brain is our biggest sex organ, and most women have fantasy lives that leave your porn sites in the dust. You know one of the reasons why women aren’t more into porn? Because almost all of it is created by men and for men, who don’t have a clue about what really turns a woman on. Wanna know what does turn us on? Ask us, engage us. Which brings me to…
Column ArchiveFox on Sex: 2. Don’t Treat Us Like Porn Stars. Just because you can pay to watch a chick with fake boobs and a fake tan fawn all over some hairy, grunting guy doesn’t mean you can treat us like some 30-second money shot. Women crave seduction. We crave pleasure. We want sex to be, well, sexy, not like some third-rate porn production. I’m not saying you won’t get those little surprise treats now and then—but you’ve got to work for them. Luckily, the brain is our biggest sex organ, and most women have fantasy lives that leave your porn sites in the dust. You know one of the reasons why women aren’t more into porn? Because almost all of it is created by men and for men, who don’t have a clue about what really turns a woman on. Wanna know what does turn us on? Ask us, engage us. Which brings me to…
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Full-page Fox on Sex Archive
2. Do Unto Others. Want hot sex? You have to provide us with the kind of sex we want to have. Simply put, you’ve got to give as good as you get. Do I need to spell it out for you? If you want us to use our mouths, you have to use yours, too! And if you do it first? All the better. Most women orgasm best from clitoral stimulation.
Fox on Sex: A Hands-On Guide to Massage
Fox on Sex: Is Too Much Porn Messing With Your Sex Skills?
Fox on Sex: The Art of Flirting
Fox on Sex: Is She Faking It?
Full-page Fox on Sex Archive
2. Do Unto Others. Want hot sex? You have to provide us with the kind of sex we want to have. Simply put, you’ve got to give as good as you get. Do I need to spell it out for you? If you want us to use our mouths, you have to use yours, too! And if you do it first? All the better. Most women orgasm best from clitoral stimulation.
2. Don’t Treat Us Like Porn Stars. Just because you can pay to watch a chick with fake boobs and a fake tan fawn all over some hairy, grunting guy doesn’t mean you can treat us like some 30-second money shot. Women crave seduction. We crave pleasure. We want sex to be, well, sexy, not like some third-rate porn production. I’m not saying you won’t get those little surprise treats now and then—but you’ve got to work for them. Luckily, the brain is our biggest sex organ, and most women have fantasy lives that leave your porn sites in the dust. You know one of the reasons why women aren’t more into porn? Because almost all of it is created by men and for men, who don’t have a clue about what really turns a woman on. Wanna know what does turn us on? Ask us, engage us. Which brings me to…
Column ArchiveFox on Sex: 5 Ways to Get Your Wife to Have More Sex With You
Fox on Sex: A Hands-On Guide to Massage
Fox on Sex: Is Too Much Porn Messing With Your Sex Skills?
Fox on Sex: The Art of Flirting
Fox on Sex: Is She Faking It?
Full-page Fox on Sex Archive
2. Do Unto Others. Want hot sex? You have to provide us with the kind of sex we want to have. Simply put, you’ve got to give as good as you get. Do I need to spell it out for you? If you want us to use our mouths, you have to use yours, too! And if you do it first? All the better. Most women orgasm best from clitoral stimulation.
Dear...Dr., is it too much to assume, or rather laugh, hysterically, that your “Doctorate” is in the realm of Sexologist, rather than Psychiatrist?
The rationale behind my query is do to the direct result of your, how shall I phrase this, numeration of such profoundly said “Ways to have more-better”...ie., the #’s as follows that are still currently shown online in your own article are as follows: #1-#2-&-#2-again-#4-&-then-#5.None TOO professional shall we say, when it came to sex between my late wife & I of 19-1/2yrs. We were ravinously enraptured in heated entanglement, why wait, strike while the (flesh) & iron is HOT, be spontanious, when the moment’s right anytime is ALLWAYS the right-time(jurisprudendence allowing). You right for & are published w/& for the “FAUX” press, home of such mental pigmy’s as Rush “Dbl.-Flush” Limbaugh, John Hannity and Glenn Beck...your heroes. Maybe you should just tend to them period...they can’t count nor innummerate, just like yourself.By the way Mam, what happens if everyone skips the nonexisting & mysterious #3? You wouldn’t know, would you...or maybe we’d just all DO-IT w/out your endless e-x-spurt-i-s-e...in math…
By James J. Giberson on 08 20, 2010